Episode: 140 \\ Why Can't I Get My Husband to Behave the Way I Want Him To Behave? | 3 More Key Things Stepmoms Do To Change Everything (Part 2)
Prevent Stepmom Burnout
(AI Typos are courtesy of ... well! Artifical Intelligence! You'll get the gyst if you're perusing the transcript! Blessings, Stepmama!)
In episode number 136, I shared the importance of adopting a spirit of curiosity. This is the number one successful habit you can implement as a stepmom because while there's so much change, when you blend isn't there? You're deciding. Where will I live? You may be at the beginning of a new custody battle because loosens are still being tied up with the prior relationship.
You're blending finances. And sometimes the financial forecast is frightening.
Your thoughts may leave you feeling disoriented as you're processing all these new things from hectic schedules to jumbled emotions that you're struggling to define. The chaos pulls you in so many different directions. It feels as if your confidence has taken a permanent leave of absence and that loss of confidence.
It feeds into every other aspect of your life.
No wonder so many couples want to throw in the towel in the first couple of years. You are listening because you want a different outcome. You are definitely in the right place. So, in addition to a spirit of curiosity, the other two keys I shared with you where the importance of prayer and community. Praying is your most powerful weapon.
God designed us for community that's why you're here so that we don't do this alone being a step mama in the trenches without. a buddy in your foxhole that is dangerous okay so if you are not inside the facebook group be sure you take a moment and hop on inside the facebook group so you can be part of our growing community where women just like you are willing to take the time to better understand what it is that God has called us to as women of influence in our blended families.
When I was in the fourth grade, I was in Mr. Litursky’s class. And he had this key ring that was hanging from his belt loop, and it jangled right along with his clicking heels. I don't know what those things are. Little clickers is what I'm going to call them that are on the bottom of shoes that men wore when I was in the fourth grade, whatever year that was.
That every step they took, they made a little click. So the click and the jangle of the keys, I'm picturing him as I'm thinking about the importance of visualizing these keys, will you visualize keys, opening doors with me? So for example, A big key going into the portal. And as it turns it unlocks possibility.
Let's imagine that unlocking possibilities as we implement each one of these keys. Okay, key number four is: Invest in you. You cannot give what you do not have. It's so important that you know what you are about. and as I mentioned, when our confidence feels as though it's been stolen from us, every other decision we make is made from a position of weakness, because we've lost our confidence.
What do we do when we don't know what to do? Well, we go in search of information, you can spend a lot of time with Dr. Google. And searching through video after video. And yet, if you do nothing with that information, nothing is really going to change. You have some information, but no action is taken. It is the same thing as you listen to today's podcast.
If you do nothing with this information, nothing will change.
And in fact, research shows that you'll forget the majority of what you heard. So let's not forget the majority of what we're hearing. Let's be strategic in this investing in you. What can you do? Well, you can decide after listening to this episode, what one action you want to take so that you can build on insights that you glean as you listened to this episode.
So this fourth key, investing in you, ties right into key number five, can you guess what the fifth key might be? It's accountability. When we are accountable to someone else, we are more likely to follow through.
Because when things are complex and let's face it being in a step, family is complex. Complexity is the enemy of execution. We can get caught up in the overwhelm or thinking it's too hard. And this is why I'm going to go back to don't be alone in the foxhole. You need a battle, buddy. You need someone there who can encourage and support you, and you will find accountability inside the Facebook group. As you share your stories, as you seek wisdom on what to do next in your blended family.
While many women in the facebook group are newly blended or some of them are about to get married in the next couple of months there are several veteran step-mom's in there so come on inside the facebook group so you can glean insights from a wide range of experiences.
Remember how I said it's important to decide on an action to take. So after you hear something, you take action on it to make it stick. Perhaps that one thing. That you choose to do will be to join the Facebook group. . For those of you who want to go deeper and get to resolutions quickly, I invite you to join Stepmama Clarity. It is a six-week, self-paced course, although you are not alone, because Alone: It Doesn't work! Alone is isolated. And we know that is where Satan picks us off when we are alone. So if you are ready for the fast track, if you are ready to get real answers that work for you in your blended family, I invite you to join Stepmama Clarity.
This course was created with stepmom’s just like you. And I know that it works. It works because we have more graduates coming out of the course who are celebrating their successes. inside of Stepmama Clarity, you have an opportunity to participate in group coaching. And this is my favorite, favorite, favorite thing to do, because this is where all of the aha moments come into play, that you get to share a bit of your story with other women and get one-on-one coaching with me right inside the group.
It is a phenomenal experience that. That is the fast track. It is the fastest way for you to get clarity in your stepmom journey. If you are listening to this on release day. It is Thursday, April 20th, 2023.
This is the perfect time for you to ask for this as a birthday gift, as a Mother’s Day gift, as a “it's about to be summer gift”, or it is “we need to prevent divorce from happening here”. So we are willing to invest in this course, SIS. It Works!
· If you are ready to stop feeling like the outsider inside of your own home. This is a course for you.
· If you're ready to get clear on what God has called you to do as the woman of influence in your blended family. This is a course for you.
· If you're ready for real life change, if you are ready to implement a habit that will create a cascade of successes. Then it's time for you to enroll in Stepmama Clarity. You know what to do head on over to http://www.stepfamilypodcast.com/clarity. This is one small action that you can take to get the ball rolling. Clarity begins the moment you start the course.
Okay. Let's get back to my fourth-grade teacher. Mr. Litursky’s keys jangling and heels clicking. So we've talked about five of the six keys between episode 1 36 and today's episode number one 40. So the first one is adopting a spirit of curiosity.
The second key is to pray. Pray is your most powerful weapon. The third key is to be in community. Don't do this alone. It's too hard to do this alone. And from today's episode, the fourth key is to invest in you.
It's important that you decide what you want to do with the information that God has led you to. So you can take the next step that makes the most sense for you. And that ties right into key number five. Accountability. When you are in the sisterhood, you are in a community of accountability. And inside that community of accountability, regardless of whether you're in the facebook group or you enroll in Stepmama Clarity, the next key is to implement! It is to get to work.
Implementing the new skills that you are learning.
Listen to this from Galatians chapter five, verse one let me be clear. The Anointed One has set us free. Not partially, but completely and wonderfully free.
We must always cherish this truth and stubbornly refuse to go back into the bondage of our past. SIS are you bound by something right now?
Are you feeling lost as though. You're in the middle of an identity crisis because the woman you thought you were dramatically changed.
After you created a blended family?
Then these keys. are your key. To victory.
Okay, so what do you do? you've heard six keys. You've heard
1. 🗝 Curiosity
2. 🗝Prayer
3. 🗝Community
4. 🗝Investing in you
5. 🗝Accountability
6. 🗝Implementing what you're learning.
How do you do those six things? It starts with joining the facebook group. Hop on inside the facebook group. And the get curious with us, you can download these top 10 keys, these strategies to Prevent Stepmom Burnout, because
Essentially when we choose not to implement. These key strategies. We are at risk of stepmom burnout. So let's not even go there. Okay. Let's learn how to avoid stepmom burnout to begin with. You can get all 10 tips at https://www.stepfamilypodcast.com/topten Very, very easy to remember.
Get the list. Join us in the facebook group and start asking questions, get curious about what is creating the angsty in your blended family. There are several coaches inside the group and women are supporting. women
And who need your support too. So if you are not inside the facebook group, please be sure to click the link in the show notes to join us in there. And let's get curious together.
Okay. Remember one small action. We don't have to eat the whole elephant all at once. We just need to take one small action. So before you move on to the next thing on your long to do list, what is it that you want to do to invest in you right now in your step-mom journey?
I say it on almost every episode, because it is so important for you to know that you are loved. And you are cherished. And if you are in a difficult spot right now where your stepkids are disrespecting you, where your husband does not seem to understand the challenges that you are facing as a stepmom. I want you to know that your voice, you have a voice and your voice is heard inside of community. We love you.
The Lord loves you and the Lord has called you to this very important stewardship calling as the woman of influence in your step family, you are anointed and you are appointed for such a time as this.
Is it hard? Very very, very hard. I know it's hard. That's why we don't do it alone. Okay. I can not wait to see you inside the facebook group.
Thank you so much for spending time with me today. I appreciate you more than, you know, Hey, if today's episode helped you, would you share it with a friend? I am on a mission in 2023 to reach 12,000 stepmoms to minister to them to remind them that God hears their hearts and their prayers. And he has planned for them to be in the stepfamily that they are in. It is a holy anointed appointing.
God's plans are good. we know that we serve a good, good father, and we need one another to remind each other of that very important truth. Okay Stepmama that'll do it for episode number one 40. I will catch you on the next Sacred Stepmama Shortie. God bless you!
P.S. If you want to be a part of reaching more women to share the good news that God has for them. In their blended families. Will you take a moment? It won't take you more than one minute. I promise just a minute to leave a review on apple podcasts, your five-star reviews are the number one way to increase the visibility to other women who are looking for answers that are steeped in God's word. So take a moment and leave a five-star review on the podcast thank you so much.
(AI Typos are courtesy of ... well! Artifical Intelligence! You'll get the gyst if you're perusing the transcript! Blessings, Stepmama!)
In episode number 136, I shared the importance of adopting a spirit of curiosity. This is the number one successful habit you can implement as a stepmom because while there's so much change, when you blend isn't there? You're deciding. Where will I live? You may be at the beginning of a new custody battle because loosens are still being tied up with the prior relationship.
You're blending finances. And sometimes the financial forecast is frightening.
Your thoughts may leave you feeling disoriented as you're processing all these new things from hectic schedules to jumbled emotions that you're struggling to define. The chaos pulls you in so many different directions. It feels as if your confidence has taken a permanent leave of absence and that loss of confidence.
It feeds into every other aspect of your life.
No wonder so many couples want to throw in the towel in the first couple of years. You are listening because you want a different outcome. You are definitely in the right place. So, in addition to a spirit of curiosity, the other two keys I shared with you where the importance of prayer and community. Praying is your most powerful weapon.
God designed us for community that's why you're here so that we don't do this alone being a step mama in the trenches without. a buddy in your foxhole that is dangerous okay so if you are not inside the facebook group be sure you take a moment and hop on inside the facebook group so you can be part of our growing community where women just like you are willing to take the time to better understand what it is that God has called us to as women of influence in our blended families.
When I was in the fourth grade, I was in Mr. Litursky’s class. And he had this key ring that was hanging from his belt loop, and it jangled right along with his clicking heels. I don't know what those things are. Little clickers is what I'm going to call them that are on the bottom of shoes that men wore when I was in the fourth grade, whatever year that was.
That every step they took, they made a little click. So the click and the jangle of the keys, I'm picturing him as I'm thinking about the importance of visualizing these keys, will you visualize keys, opening doors with me? So for example, A big key going into the portal. And as it turns it unlocks possibility.
Let's imagine that unlocking possibilities as we implement each one of these keys. Okay, key number four is: Invest in you. You cannot give what you do not have. It's so important that you know what you are about. and as I mentioned, when our confidence feels as though it's been stolen from us, every other decision we make is made from a position of weakness, because we've lost our confidence.
What do we do when we don't know what to do? Well, we go in search of information, you can spend a lot of time with Dr. Google. And searching through video after video. And yet, if you do nothing with that information, nothing is really going to change. You have some information, but no action is taken. It is the same thing as you listen to today's podcast.
If you do nothing with this information, nothing will change.
And in fact, research shows that you'll forget the majority of what you heard. So let's not forget the majority of what we're hearing. Let's be strategic in this investing in you. What can you do? Well, you can decide after listening to this episode, what one action you want to take so that you can build on insights that you glean as you listened to this episode.
So this fourth key, investing in you, ties right into key number five, can you guess what the fifth key might be? It's accountability. When we are accountable to someone else, we are more likely to follow through.
Because when things are complex and let's face it being in a step, family is complex. Complexity is the enemy of execution. We can get caught up in the overwhelm or thinking it's too hard. And this is why I'm going to go back to don't be alone in the foxhole. You need a battle, buddy. You need someone there who can encourage and support you, and you will find accountability inside the Facebook group. As you share your stories, as you seek wisdom on what to do next in your blended family.
While many women in the facebook group are newly blended or some of them are about to get married in the next couple of months there are several veteran step-mom's in there so come on inside the facebook group so you can glean insights from a wide range of experiences.
Remember how I said it's important to decide on an action to take. So after you hear something, you take action on it to make it stick. Perhaps that one thing. That you choose to do will be to join the Facebook group. . For those of you who want to go deeper and get to resolutions quickly, I invite you to join Stepmama Clarity. It is a six-week, self-paced course, although you are not alone, because Alone: It Doesn't work! Alone is isolated. And we know that is where Satan picks us off when we are alone. So if you are ready for the fast track, if you are ready to get real answers that work for you in your blended family, I invite you to join Stepmama Clarity.
This course was created with stepmom’s just like you. And I know that it works. It works because we have more graduates coming out of the course who are celebrating their successes. inside of Stepmama Clarity, you have an opportunity to participate in group coaching. And this is my favorite, favorite, favorite thing to do, because this is where all of the aha moments come into play, that you get to share a bit of your story with other women and get one-on-one coaching with me right inside the group.
It is a phenomenal experience that. That is the fast track. It is the fastest way for you to get clarity in your stepmom journey. If you are listening to this on release day. It is Thursday, April 20th, 2023.
This is the perfect time for you to ask for this as a birthday gift, as a Mother’s Day gift, as a “it's about to be summer gift”, or it is “we need to prevent divorce from happening here”. So we are willing to invest in this course, SIS. It Works!
· If you are ready to stop feeling like the outsider inside of your own home. This is a course for you.
· If you're ready to get clear on what God has called you to do as the woman of influence in your blended family. This is a course for you.
· If you're ready for real life change, if you are ready to implement a habit that will create a cascade of successes. Then it's time for you to enroll in Stepmama Clarity. You know what to do head on over to http://www.stepfamilypodcast.com/clarity. This is one small action that you can take to get the ball rolling. Clarity begins the moment you start the course.
Okay. Let's get back to my fourth-grade teacher. Mr. Litursky’s keys jangling and heels clicking. So we've talked about five of the six keys between episode 1 36 and today's episode number one 40. So the first one is adopting a spirit of curiosity.
The second key is to pray. Pray is your most powerful weapon. The third key is to be in community. Don't do this alone. It's too hard to do this alone. And from today's episode, the fourth key is to invest in you.
It's important that you decide what you want to do with the information that God has led you to. So you can take the next step that makes the most sense for you. And that ties right into key number five. Accountability. When you are in the sisterhood, you are in a community of accountability. And inside that community of accountability, regardless of whether you're in the facebook group or you enroll in Stepmama Clarity, the next key is to implement! It is to get to work.
Implementing the new skills that you are learning.
Listen to this from Galatians chapter five, verse one let me be clear. The Anointed One has set us free. Not partially, but completely and wonderfully free.
We must always cherish this truth and stubbornly refuse to go back into the bondage of our past. SIS are you bound by something right now?
Are you feeling lost as though. You're in the middle of an identity crisis because the woman you thought you were dramatically changed.
After you created a blended family?
Then these keys. are your key. To victory.
Okay, so what do you do? you've heard six keys. You've heard
1. Curiosity
2. Prayer
3. Community
4. Investing in you
5. Accountability
6. Implementing what you're learning.
How do you do those six things? It starts with joining the facebook group. Hop on inside the facebook group. And the get curious with us, you can download these top 10 keys, these strategies to Prevent Stepmom Burnout, because
Essentially when we choose not to implement. These key strategies. We are at risk of stepmom burnout. So let's not even go there. Okay. Let's learn how to avoid stepmom burnout to begin with. You can get all 10 tips at https://www.stepfamilypodcast.com/topten Very, very easy to remember. Prevent Stepmom Burnout
Get the list. Join us in the facebook group and start asking questions, get curious about what is creating the angsty in your blended family. There are several coaches inside the group and women are supporting. women
And who need your support too. So if you are not inside the facebook group, please be sure to click the link in the show notes to join us in there. And let's get curious together.
Okay. Remember one small action. We don't have to eat the whole elephant all at once. We just need to take one small action. So before you move on to the next thing on your long to do list, what is it that you want to do to invest in you right now in your step-mom journey?
I say it on almost every episode, because it is so important for you to know that you are loved. And you are cherished. And if you are in a difficult spot right now where your stepkids are disrespecting you, where your husband does not seem to understand the challenges that you are facing as a stepmom. I want you to know that your voice, you have a voice and your voice is heard inside of community. We love you.
The Lord loves you and the Lord has called you to this very important stewardship calling as the woman of influence in your step family, you are anointed and you are appointed for such a time as this.
Is it hard? Very very, very hard. I know it's hard. That's why we don't do it alone. Okay. I can not wait to see you inside the facebook group.
Thank you so much for spending time with me today. I appreciate you more than, you know, Hey, if today's episode helped you, would you share it with a friend? I am on a mission in 2023 to reach 12,000 stepmoms to minister to them to remind them that God hears their hearts and their prayers. And he has planned for them to be in the stepfamily that they are in. It is a holy anointed appointing.
God's plans are good. we know that we serve a good, good father, and we need one another to remind each other of that very important truth. Okay Stepmama that'll do it for episode number one 40. I will catch you on the next Sacred Stepmama Shortie. God bless you!
P.S. If you want to be a part of reaching more women to share the good news that God has for them. In their blended families. Will you take a moment? It won't take you more than one minute. I promise just a minute to leave a review on apple podcasts, your five-star reviews are the number one way to increase the visibility to other women who are looking for answers that are steeped in God's word. So take a moment and leave a five-star review on the podcast thank you so much.